Wednesday, December 23, 2009

The Will

The other day we finally received a copy of my father's will and boy were we all surprised. According to this document my father left EVERYTHING to my brother and aunt. The car he promised me was left to my brother and all his property and assets to my aunt. Like wtf!!! Did this man forget that he has 3 other children that he failed to mention in this damn will.

When my sis first told me what the will said I was in utter shock and my immediate reaction was "F that man". I know it sounds bad but I just found it crazy. I honestly felt that I was the closest to my dad out of all us and for him to not even say and to tell my kids I love them or anything was ludacris!!!

My other siblings are asking if we are going to fight it and I'm thinking yes and my mom n sis are saying the same but I really don't know if I want to go through all of that. That requires days in court and such and that's not a process I really want to go through. I'm just shocked and hurt and I don't know what to think. My mom says she thinks my dad wrote the will but my aunt typed it and may have done things the way she felt were needed and my dad just signed it without even reading it. To make matters worse, one of the witnesses that signed the damn will was my father's mistresss....THE NERVE!!!!

Tuesday, December 22, 2009

Bed Bugs?!?!?!

So against a lot of different advice from different people I'm trying to work things out with Stuy and last night was my first time seeing him in about a month or more.

I went over to his place after work last night and at first I felt very awkward because it was the first time we saw each other since we broke up. He was all laid up in bed and I was just standing there watching the tv and texting and waiting for him to give me something to sleep in. He finally gave me a t-shirt and I got in the bed. We automatically started messing around n such and things sort of felt normal again lol.

So after we are just laying there watching tv and from the side of my eye I see something dark on the bed and I kind of sit up to look and its a huge bed bug!!!! I don't really know what to do, but then I see a baby one crawling right by it so I sit up. It starts to come closer to me so I say omg there's something crawling on the bed and I think it's a spider (I was kind of too embarrassed to say the truth). I'm like kill it or swat it off but he's like he doesn't see it. But I refused to lay back down. Then finally I swat the bed myself and cautiously lay back down. By this time the huge bedbug is moving and is now crawling on the wall. I keep l0oking at it discreetly because I was scared it would come my way but it didn't thank god. So sad to say I didn't have a good night rest last night because of my nervousness.

Now I know they only come out in the dark so I always make him leave the tv on so that his room is not pitch black when we sleep but I wake up at 5am and I don't see anything. This dummy turned the tv off and now I'm in panic mode. I'm trying to turn the tv on but the remote isn't working so I keep fidgeting until I was finally able to get it to work and I turned it right back on.

But I'm talking to my sis and I'm telling her about this and she's like I should tell him to get a spray but I'm too embarrassed for him to even mention the fact that he has bedbugs. I keep wondering if he knows he has it and he's ok with it or if he's completely clueless. I don't know what to do? How would you break it to your significant other that they have insect problems and its causing you to not be comfortable in their living domains (without hurting their feelings of course)???? Help me out please

Sunday, December 20, 2009

Married Man

Good news...I finally got a new laptop so I am back on my blogging full time (woohoo). The story of this new laptop will come soon.

First thing first, I have to introduce Married Man. One day I was walking home and chatting away on the phone with my sister and this car is driving along side me and speaking to me and we are cracking jokes. I reach my house and as I am about to go inside, he says wait can he have a minute so I come back downstairs and we speak a bit and exchange numbers.

A couple days later he hits me up and says he wants to see me and he's going to come and pick me up from the train station. When I reach, I call him but he doesn't pick up his phone so I go home. I end up hanging out with friends and we go to a diner. He calls me and sees that I am upset and wants to come see me and we speak a lil and he tells me he really likes me and all this other "game". I proceed to ask him questions about his life because of his age (31). He informs me that he is married with 2 daughters but he is separated from his wife. Here's the crazy part......they still live together. RED FLAG!!!!!

Against my better judgement I continue to talk to this man, but that's as far as it went. One night we make plans to go to the movies and when the time was nearing for him to come pick me up, he is nowhere to be found. He wasn't responding to my texts or phone calls. I got stood up smh.

I didn't hear from him for another 3-4days and then one day he texts me and of course I have an attitude and I tell him I don't want to deal with him anymore because he played himself. He then goes on to say that he was on his way to me that night but he got pulled over by the police and because he had a warrant, he was arrested. He says the whole time he was locked up he kept thinking about me and he knew I would be really upset and all this other crap. I continue to give him the cold shoulder but one night he offers to pick me up from work and I agreed to it.

He shows up (almost 2hrs late) and we are driving around and wind up at a lil soul food restaurant. We talk about different things and then we proceed to go home.

It was bad enough that the whole time he kept trying to kiss me and touch me and I let it be known he was in the dog house. We reach my block and parks the car and we continue to talk and he proceeds to attempt to kiss me even though I kept turning my face away. Long story short he tries to have sex with me in the car, in front of my house. I had to use strength to push him away and ask him to stop. Honestly, I feared that he wouldn't and it would've turned ugly but luckily it didn't. I got out the car and went inside my house. I haven't spoken to him since (minus the time he texted me asking if everything was ok and I responded I'm fine).

Guess it worked out for the best because I had no business with a married man in the first place right.

Thursday, December 3, 2009

Horrible Morning

Today I had a very big interview with a trading company on wall street and I was looking forward to it all week. I made sure I printed out a few resumes yesterday, as well as researched the company and took some notes to show interest and have questions for the interviewer.

I wake up this morning at 645am to use the bathroom and then went back to bed with my phone right next to me because my alarm was set to go off at 740am. I wake up and I look down on my phone and it reads 902am. I jumped out of bed and rushed to the bathroom and brushed my teeth and washed my face. Now understand people that my interview was scheduled for 10am so you can understand why I am rushing and why I didnt get the chance to shower (I know very nasty but at the time I definitely didnt care).

I put on my suit and then realize my shirt is wrinkled and then I had to find my shoes. Then I get upset again when I see that its warm out and my mom has my "interview jacket" and I am stuck wearing my big ass pea coat. So I'm rushing to the bus in heels in a full suit and pea coat sweating bricks. I wanted to just turn back home and take a L for this job but I didn't.

Long story short I get there @ 1030am and I tell the lady I have an appt with such n such and I sit there waiting. Then this man comes out and asks for my resume and then goes back in. 5min later this older man in shorts and running sneakers comes out and ask what time was our appt and I say 10am and he says because I was late he has to reschedule. I was so tight n disappointed in myself. I rescheduled for monday but I feel like I already blew my chances on this position because first impressions are lasting impressions and I just showed that I am not responsible.