Monday, March 14, 2011

How Does One Know They Are "In Love"?

For some reason this question is always on my mind because I really want to know how you feel when you are truly in love with someone?

I have been in a real relationship with one man and I say I loved him and all that, but I honestly don't know if I was ever "in love" with him. I had feelings for him and I cared for him very deeply but I don't understand how you know when you are in love. Some people say you just feel it, but how does it feel? Do you wish to be around the person all the time? Is the person on your mind 24/7? I always think about my future and when I do meet a man and get serious with him how will I know if its more than like.

Besides my ex boyfriend, I told one other guy I loved him because I thought I did, but now I'm not so sure. A friend recently told her boyfriend she loved him and I was so happy for her, but again I wondered how she knew.  I wish there was a simple answer to this question but I don't think there is. Most people will say that you just know when it happens. I just hope if and when it does happen for me, I am able to recognize it and not mistaken it for just caring for the person.


  1. Nice post....yes the great mystery for which we all seem to be searching deeply for an answer...falling in love being in love it really is a feeling but we shouldn't lose sight of the fact it's highly dependent on good conduct, mutal respect, committment , good communication mentally and spirirually...I think emotional stimulation and physical/sexual satisfaction are one of the most inportant ingredients without the chemistry forget it...

    A lot of the time when we talk about how do you know he/she is right for you??...instantly only airy fairy thoughts come to mind..personally I have discovered that sometimes the right person is also the one that drives you INSANE to the point you are literally gagging for more in a positive light...

    Ultimately you can't describe the feeling to anyone no matter how hard you try they just have to go through the motions...

  2. It took me awhile to understand that love isn't necessarily about the way you feel when you're with that special person. It's actually about how you feel when you're not.

  3. True love is like nothing you have experience before, so when it happens, you will know.. Plus like Reggie said, there's a lot of strong feelings when you are not with that person...