Who Woulda Thought

There's this guy that I've had a crush on for the longest time now, but I just never thought anything would happen. It goes back to wen I was in JHS and I believe he was in HS. Let me tell you how we met:

My mom was going on a trip around the world and wanted to get a pair of sneakers so we went to the mall and went to ladies footlocker. There was this really cute guy working there and my mom decided to make him help her that day. When I tell you this lady put him through hell, I mean it. It was to the point where my sis and I had to walk away because she kept bothering him and changing her mind on the sneaker she wanted. She finally decided on some presto (I know yall remember when people were rocking those...all except me(yuck lol)). Ever since that day everytime this guy see's me or my sister, he would always say hi.

So now I get older and I realize that this guy lives around me and knows the same people I know and I still see him from time to time but nothing serious.

Fourth of July my friends and I go to the all white affair at the hamptons....and who do I see (Mr. Footlocker). I said hi and he gave me a big hug and was like wow you look gorgeous and I'm like thanks (inside I was glowing lol). So he's like you don't hit no one up and I'm like I use to but you never respond so I stopped and he's like well make sure you hit me up and I'll make it my duty to respond. HHHMMM genius idea pops into my head lol and I say how bout you just take down my number and he's like ok. But then he realizes one of his friends has his phone so he gives me his number (and a name so I finally stop calling him by his myspaec name lol).

Party continues and I bump into him again and he's like hugging me and stuff and like its always nice to see you. After the party I text him so he can have my number and we talk briefly.

Now we speak everyday and we realized we had so much in common. I don't know what's really going to happen with him but I'm hoping it does go somewhere. The only bad thing is he's not as tall as I like my men but he's real cute and smart so I won't the height stop me from pursuing it. I'll keep you guys posted on Mr. Footlocker.

Just Say It From the Beginning!!!!!

So random friend hits me up today basically saying he wants to see me while I'm home. Now this friend, we'll call him ENY, is cool peoples and use to give me advice and such when I was dealing with Stuy. After Stuy and I broke up, ENY and I started talking and such. That summer we engaged in a sexual encounter lol. But then it seemed like he started acting funny. Like before we had sex, we use to talk everyday and he use to make sure he was the last person I spoke to at night before going to bed.



When the phone calls slowed and he always had an excuse for not wanting to chill I said f*** it. I'm not down for this shit and left him alone.



So he hits me up today:



ME: What's wrong with a 2 piece?

ENY: Nothing....I wanna see u wearing 1 in person

ME: That won't happen unless u go on vacay or the beach w/me

ENY: I can't see u with no clothes?

ME: Nope

ENY: why not?

ME: cuz I'm not fuckin u so y would I let u c me naked



Then he basically tells me he wants to have sex with me...or would like to



ME: We're friends

ENY: We weren't friends before?

ME: Yea but I had liked u then n I thought u did 2. But afta we had sex u was actin funny

ENY: No I wasn't actin funny. I did like you

ME: U was 2 me....made it seem like all u wanted was the sex. So I said wateva and left it at that

ENY: U deserve 2 know shit...it wasn't about the sex...I was feeling u...4real. But I had 2 much problemz...with fam, girls...everything was goin wrong and I needed time 2 just handle my shit 2 be honest. I didn't want 2 get involved knowin my head wasn't gonna be all there. I never wanted 2 disrespect u in anyway

ME: If that was the case u shoulda said it from jump n left us as friends. U shouldn't have had sex with me. But it is wat it is n its the past



Like I just don't understand men sometimes. If you feel you were going thru so much to the point where you don't want to build on anything with someone new, why not just say something from jump so that the female can know what she's getting herself into and if she even wants to be in that situation????? Well it's the past and that's where its staying. We will continue to just be FRIENDS, nothing more and nothing less!!!

Men Are Just As Sensitive

Last night I stayed on the phone with Stuy til 5am. Majority of the time we weren't even talking. My eyes were closed (I was sooo tired) and we were just holding on to the phone. He was listening to music and we would say or ask something every few minutes. Its sad though because I knew I was tired but I didn't want to get off the phone. I was comfortable with just having him on the other end.

Well we ended up getting on the topic of when I come home (next wk baby lol) and us seeing each other. He still doesn't agree with the fact that I want to meet in public grounds, away from his house. So we are talking and he makes a comment about sex and I say sometimes you make it seem like thats all you want from me. BIG MISTAKE!!! He got so upset and was like how could you say that to me. He was soo mad and was basically acting like an ass for the rest of the time we were on the phone. He said we really don't need to be dealing with eachother if I think he only wants me for sex. He doesn't lack it that much for him to feen to get it from me.

My whole thing is he took my comment the wrong way because I didn't say he only wants me for sex. I was just pointing out that sometimes the comments he makes have made me feel as though that's all he wants, but I know it isn't. It was just a way for me to let him know he needs to watch what he says to me sometimes because of how it makes me feel. So at the end of the convo I ask if he misses me (which we always ask eachother) and he says no. I'm like wow are you serious and he's like yea and I'm like you know what let's just get off the phone and he's like ok so I hang up.

Now I'm mulling all this over and I'm like I just don't understand why he got upset because to me he's misinterpreting what I was saying. So the roomie says because he actually cares for me and it hurt him for me to say all he wants me for is sex. Men are just as sensitive as females and when they really care about a female and the female says something hurtful, they really take it to heart. So I apologized!!

But I wanna know do you guys agree, are men just as sensitive as women when it comes to someone they really care for?