Disaster Date

The other night I went on a "date" with a friend. Now let me be clear that me and this guy are/were just friends. I wasn't in no shape or form attracted to him (but I can't say the same about him).

We flirted here and there on twitter and he let it be known numerously that he found me attractive and wanted to know if I had feelings for him. I told him I am just a flirt and just see him as a friend. He wanted to go see Saw 3D and I said I would go and that would be our date.

The night came and he came and picked me up and we drove to the theaters. In the car we made small talk and got into a mini argument on our views about dating and relationships. (He's very very close minded). We get to the theater and he gives me $40 to get the tickets as he goes to find parking. He makes it to me just as I am about to purchase the tickets and when he sees that the tickets are $16.50 a piece, he goes crazy but still purchases them. The lady gives me back $7 and I hand it to him since it is his money and he looks at me like I'm crazy saying its only 7 bucks so I'm like fine give it back to me and he says no and puts it in his pocket. (So you're saying that's chump change but your quick to stuff it in your pocket hmmm).

After the movie I say lets go for drinks since its still early and he says ok so I let him know there's an Applebees a few blocks down and we drive there. We get to the bar and I order a drink and he gets one. Now I see he post on twitter that he finally took me out and paid (wtf!!). Then we both order appetizers and just make conversation. He proceeds to tell me that he is a cheap guy and he will spend money on things and later regret it. Then we get into multiple arguments about different things. (I guess I should tell yall that I am very strong minded and always have a point to make). By this time I'm annoyed with him. Now I'm done with my drink and I order another. The look that I get from this man was crazy but I paid him no mind. So he makes a comment about if he was to go sit somewhere else, what would I do with the check. I said I would tell them to bill it to him. He says no you won't so I make it clear that if he doesn't want to pay I will pay for myself. Stop treating me like I'm broke. Anyway, the check comes and its $48 and do you know this man had the nerve to complain. I couldn't believe it.

On our way back to my house, we get into yet another argument and I shut him down and get out of the car. I couldn't believe he was acting this way and I chose to mute him on twitter and we haven't really spoken since. But boy did he have pent up anger......

A Real Date

So I'm laying in bed chatting with some of my girls and we begin helping my best friend figure out what she's going to wear to her date tonight. She was thinking of going with some jeans and heels or something low key since she doesn't know where she's going and the weather outside is pretty nasty. But then my homegirl tells her to wear a dress and some heels, preferable green because that's the guys favorite color. The convo then goes into how her ex would just say he's taking her out and she would always wear a dress because she never knew where they would be going and that's when it hit me, I'VE NEVER HAD A REAL DATE BEFORE.

Now don't get me wrong, I've gone out with plenty of guys and stuff but I never really had that real date vibe. When the guy comes and picks you up from your house and drives to this really nice restaurant and you enjoy your night with each other and all that mushy stuff. I wonder if I just don't know how to pick these males or something. Every time I do go out with a guy its usually to the movies or we just chill at his crib. Although I do enjoy doing these things, I would really like to go on that nice real date where I can put on a really nice outfit with some heels and he takes me out to a nice place and we get to know each other. Hopefully one day this can happen for me.

You Don't Believe In What???

Last night I'm chilling with Mr. P and we are talking and watching a movie. Something in the movie leads me to ask him about God and this guy informs me that he doesn't believe in Him!! I look at him and say you have to be kidding me and he's like no he doesn't believe in God and when I ask why, he responds that he doesn't believe in the supernatural. By this time my jaw has dropped and I am in utter shock. I still think he's joking with me because he has a smirk on his face so I'm like nah be forreal right now and he says he's dead serious. So I back away from him and I'm asking why not and did he always feel this way and he says no, he use to go to catholic school and he was raised in a baptist home but as he grew up, he stopped believing. So I call him an atheist and he just chuckles. I ask if he believes in Jesus and he says yea so I ask then why not his father and he says because no one has seen God.

Now this is a very serious issue to me because I was raised in a baptist home as well and I still am one. I have to admit that I haven't been to church in quite some time for different reasons but my belief hasn't changed. I honestly don't know if I can date someone who doesn't believe in God. I know for a fact that I will be going to church again and I will want a guy that I get serious with to go with me and to meet my mother and if Mr. P ends up being that guy it won't happen. I especially wouldn't let him meet my mom because she is very very religious and she would automatically dislike him.

Do you think I'm overreacting with this? Would you date someone who doesn't believe in God??